I’m going to start off with this disclaimer, I’m very unmarried. I did however get a revelation of sorts about the third cord this morning.
There’s an illustration on marriage that I saw on social media once and I it was referenced during a sermon a friend preached this passed Sunday. I’m going to try and draw it with my words, I really hope you can picture it. Okay, so just imagine a triangle; God at the top, man on the right and woman on the left. When both parties peruse God, they both move closer to the top point of the triangle, God. This causes them to move closer to each other without even trying. If only one of them pursues God, there’s still a gap between them. If the both of them try to work things out by themselves, they move further from God and of course, each other. The space left between them that obviously isn’t being filled by God will be occupied by something/one else, this thing/person will be taking God’s place as the third cord in the union. Remember that the fall of Lucifer, the great angel of worship was because he wanted to take God’s place… let that simmer for a while. Now, the moment Adam and Eve opened their minds to the possibility of having something better than what they already had from God, they opened that space in their minds to the devil who then became their third cord… let that simmer for a while.
That moment of moving from God and allowing the devil in his place for Adam and Eve caused generations of mankind that would be born from them to suffer for all of eternity. That one action forced God’s hand to drastically change his entire plan for mankind. That’s what dealing with it outside of God can do!
Think of Sarah and Abraham. God promised them Isaac and they went and did things themselves, away from God and His plans and ended up with Ishmael. But God being rich in grace and mercy made good on Ishmael’s existence. Many of us have tried doing things away from God and tried to work them out on our own and ended up with an Ishmael. Trust God to make good with that too. Acknowledge your part in that coming to being and keep perusing Him in your union, when you both do so with Him as your third cord, you’ll be fine. Maybe not great because it’s not an Isaac, but you’ll be fine. While acknowledging your part in the current situation, respect your vows, you didn’t just make them to each other, you made them to God.
“When you vow a vow to God, do not delay paying it, for He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you vow. It is better that you should not vow than you should vow and not pay. Let not your mouth lead you into sin, and do not say before the messenger that it was a mistake. Why should God be angry at your voice and destroy the work of your hands? For when dreams increase and words grow many, there is vanity,but God is the one you must fear.” Ecclesiastes 5:4-7.