One thing is certain; for as long as you are alive, you will make mistakes. This may seem obvious, but many times we allow ourselves to live in the mistake of the past. The truth of the matter is that making mistakes is a big indicator of growth. It’s quite unlikely that you can go through life without mistakes.
Mistakes are an inevitable part of life. Husbands makes mistakes, wives make mistakes, children make mistakes, parents make mistakes, businesses make mistakes – the biggest thing is to understand that mistakes are a constant reminder that we are only human after all.
It’s very easy to bury yourself in self-pity when you make mistakes. What I have learned is that I personally need to understand how imperfect I am, and that every now and then I will need correction. Of-course some mistakes will cost you more that others, and some may have consequences that are irreversible, but I’ve learned that human beings can adapt, and change with changing circumstances, and often the change is for the better.
5 Ways to move on from mistakes:
1.Acknowledge that there is nothing you can do to change the past
The past is exactly that, the past. There is nothing you can do to change things that have happened in the past. Understanding this will give you peace to move on. Remember the serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference
2.Let the greatest pull of your life be the pull of the future
Often what takes us is backwards is the fact that we have nothing to look forward to. Clearly defining what your dreams are will help you look forward to the future more than you do backward, to the past. Don’t let the past pull you back, let the future pull you forward.
If you made a mistake, forgive yourself. The greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness. Forgive yourself and start over. Is it a business failure? Forgive yourself. Is it a relationship failure? Forgive yourself. Forgiveness opens a new perspective for you.
4.Write down the lessons learned from the situation
Sometimes it’s easy to see the worst in every situation, especially if you are in it. But what I’ve seen is that you can gain a fresh perspective by writing down a minimum of 10 things you have learned from the situation. Use these 10 things as a stepping stone to starting afresh.
5.Seek to help someone navigate through what you failed in.
The best way to learn is to teach. Sometimes, you must look for someone that can learn from you and help them overcome what you could not get right. Simultaneously do this with getting yourself a mentor to help you cross over to you next level. Mistakes are inevitable; you so are victories – many times.
CEO, Quality Growth International